Tuesday, January 31, 2017

#WhenSilenceSpeaks



{This writing challenge is hosted by @GGReneeWrites of All the Many Layers}

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Sunday, January 29, 2017

Quotes from the Self ♡ Love Sundays Archive

The Introduction

"The Self Love journey is just as much for me as it is for others. I don't think I'm perfect, far from it, but it's on my heart do do this and that's what this is all about."

Continue.

"...I am at a place now where I want the love I know I have inside of me to shine at its full capacity from every single dimension of who I am. I want to love myself enough to be more at peace...with myself, with others, and the world/my community in order to find true happiness and not let go of said happiness when something bad happens..."

Be the Standard

"Work on building your house up before inviting anything/anyone in. Stay balanced. Stay focused. Stay positive. Last, but not least, Be the standard, and the rest will follow. Love starts from within."

Transforming Negatives into Positives

"Life gets easier the moment you become aware of how to handle adversity with grace and bounce back from failure to failure victoriously." 

No Rush

"...Waiting is a game of opportunity; it's perfect time to grow, improve, build, but most importantly, it's a time to really be present and enjoy the process of dreams happening."

Perception

"I was now on a beach, surrounded by beauty and positive energy. It was like magic. Anyone can reshape whatever image she holds in her mind, but not without force or action."

An Act of Release

"It's all a matter of finding forgiveness in your heart, distributing it out to anything/anyone that hinders joy, growth, or inner peace, and not worrying that your compassion will somehow deplete the more you give it away." 

Sometimes Ambitious

 "I can't pray for something if my actions are working against whatever it is I'm praying for, but then expect it to manifest.  In that regard, I have to meet God half-way and not expect the universe to do all the work for me."

A Season to Thrive

"I feel like there is something-some kind of magical, magnetic power-that I'm not quite tapping into, but I'm on the brink of somehow reaching that place. I feel myself in the process of attracting beautiful things into my existence."

Believe in Abundance

"When I'm aligned with my purpose, I don't have to stress about things that don't exactly go as planned nor do I have to doubt that my prayers are being heard, because I know that everything is moving in the right order, at its natural speed, even when I don't always see it working out." 

To the Woman who Taught me How to Love Myself

"She taught me that knowledge is power. Not only did she teach me this, she embodied it. Because of her, I know that my mind is my most powerful tool."

Facing Reality

"Just as I was avoiding the negative by escaping my own reality, I was also do a good job at avoiding the positive, and closing myself off from all the good that can only happen if I would learn how to fully release/let go of all that isn't aligned with where I am at this point in my life."

Guard Your Heart

"Instead of rebuilding that wall of steel when my actions are not reciprocated or things don't exactly align the way I see fit, I've come up with a different approach; total surrender, total trust. As I relinquish that false sense of power by control, I am able to love, accept, and move on accordingly."

Focus on the Good

"Sometimes, more often than not, gratitude is the catalyst for life to manifest in really beautiful ways, a truth I've witnessed many times first hand."

Bo$$ Up + Prosper

"In a world where there's so much pressure to be a specific kind of beautiful, it's important to know how to validate yourself..live for...dress for...transform/get fit/ 'glo-up' FOR YOUR SELF." 

Falling Behind

Obviously, the greater lesson here is to not compare your journey to that of others. However, I constantly catch myself thinking the grass must be greener on the other side, watching other people experience certain things and feeling inadequate, or feeling like I'm falling behind, especially at the age where every one around me sort of expects me to have my life together by now.

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Friday, January 20, 2017

Music Collective: vol. 55 {10,000 Hours}

I have been so in love with this song + the 'Change' EP as of lately. Apparently, Ella Mai is yet another artist I've been somewhat missing out on, but I always love stumbling across music gems to get into. 

♡ @ChymereA

Listen + Connect to Ella Mai: Soundcloud | IG: @EllaMai  | Twitter: @EllaMai
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Tuesday, January 17, 2017

#TheSkyBoxSuite


From participation jr. varsity basketball and competitive swimming to Sundays, Mondays, and Thursdays spent watching football growing up, sports have always been a pretty huge deal in my world. Sports taught me valuable lessons that are applicable to so many different areas of life and helped to mold my perspective on success and achievement...and the dedication it requires to get there. What I love the most about sports itself is how it has the ability to bring together random things in a really unorthodox way, which is what I hope to achieve through sports writing.

Just like sports, music has always played a major role in my life; one of those subjects I can talk/write about endlessly and never get tired of it. The style element was implemented later to add more personality and versatility. Without even realizing it, I created a niche outside of personal blogging that could very well translate into something I'm a little bit more serious about pursuing and profiting from. 

For years, I've had this idea to re-launch the sports blog that was started a few years ago, but I was hesitant for a few limiting reasons; afraid that I wouldn't be good enough, or well-versed enough to deliver sports news flawlessly and consistently, or wasn't educated enough to be a legit journalist, and the list goes on. For so long, it felt impossible, therefore it was.
"Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact; it's an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration; it's a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.
-Muhammad Ali (Rest in Power)

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Monday, January 16, 2017

Overwhelmed.

This world that I am voluntarily a part of is so scary at times and there's this constant pressure to be bigger than we are for the sake of being influential, for the sake of turning our entire brand into one huge commercial full of products/services we would've never bought otherwise. Blogging has become this over-saturated market of people competing relentlessly for popularity and numbers (not necessarily building authentic connections), and creating a business tools out of something that was once so light-hearted and fun. It used to be a time we could expose ourselves freely, laugh, joke, and connect with familiar faces; now, we're just sharing pieces of our lives via social media and becoming extremely braggadocios in the process.

All of it is really so overwhelming, which is why I've chosen to vent here, because I miss having a space outside of my journal, where I felt safe to be transparent, openly share thoughts and pieces of my world, without worrying whether or not someone will be offended by how I've chosen to express myself. It's almost like going to a club packed with people, smoke in the air, heavy bass pouring from the speakers (so loudly to the point where all conversations are drowned by it), only to truly crave those small intimate gatherings with a few close friends; where the only sounds filling the space are a nice feel good play list in the background, laughter, and conversations about life + other misc. things. That's what I miss so much about blogging and unfortunately, it is so damn hard to find. 

Once upon a time, I wanted to own my own print magazine, which I still think would be a dope career path. However, my mind has moved on to another dream. Subconsciously, I think I may have been intimidated by what it takes to go that route. Every time I turn around, there's another 'how to build your brand' seminar, ebook, mailing list, and/or podcast. Don't get me wrong; while I certainly have found some of it to be super beneficial and there are some bloggers who are phenomenal at what they do but, at some point, it's just way too much. It's information overload. 

I originally started blogging in high school, somewhere circa 2005-06, on a site called Xanga. From there, I posted on Myspace and Facebook. It's one of those things that I've held on to for so long, it's hard for me to just up and walk away from. Not only does writing come naturally to me, it just so happens to be a passion of mine.  Although some would consider it to be a gift, it's something I truly enjoy doing, so while it started as something fun and wasn't something I took seriously, I was still creating substantial content, never in my wildest dreams thinking that it would one day become this billion dollar industry nor did I care; all I ever wanted to do was write + create to my heart's content without the need or underlying pressure to be anyone but me. 

The crazy thing is: I still want to be in this world. The downside of that desire is knowing there's a side of me that's starting to believe I'm delusional for actually thinking my authenticity will make a difference. Another side of me thinks there's not really a place for me here anymore, other than the little corner of the web I've somewhat abandoned in attempts to "adapt" to what this world has become. I know that what I'm saying may come off as a very cynical and self-sabotaging way to think that's not necessarily good for business, but that's just how I feel *Kendrick Lamar voice* ...and it's wildly obvious that a part of me wants to fit in. 

Even coming off a two week social media hiatus for the new year and focusing primarily on my sports blog, I'm still high-key overwhelmed and-at this moment in time-I don't know how to go about dealing with that, other than doing what I've always done in stressful times such as this: write

-signing out-
Chymere A.
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Friday, January 6, 2017

Music Collective: vol. 54 {Life in Sounds II}

A short + sweet play list of the songs that I've been vibing + listening to lately:

s o n g s :

  • Prepared - Jill Scott
  • Love Songs - Lola Coca
  • God is Fair, Sexy Nasty - Mac Miller (ft. Kendrick Lamar)
  • Better With You - Austin Mahone
  • Ripperton Love - Tank and The Bangas
  • Ginger Me Slowly - Somi
  • 10,00 Hours - Ella Mai

a l b u m s + E P ' s :

  • Darkness and Light - John Legend
    • why didn't anyone tell me this album was so damn good!?!?
  • Telefone - Noname
  • Mind of Mine (Deluxe) - Zayn
  • "Awaken, My Love" - Childish Gambino

+ Listen to the Life in Sounds Playlist (pt. I & II) on Apple Music

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Thursday, January 5, 2017

Jack Daniels + Sunflowers


I don't even know what this rant is about, but I feel myself flowing with it, so if it confuses you, you've been warned. 

My aesthetic is changing, so is my mood. For instance, I really only wear black now, not because I'm sad or anything, I just like the way it feels. I like the way it moves and appreciate it's simplicity. I purchased a black iPhone this time around and all my journals these past couple of years have been black. I think it's my power color. I dig the nostalgia of black (vinyl, VHS tapes, magnetic tape strips, etc.) Classic. Essentially, "Black is the queen of all colors." 

I've always gravitated towards things that aren't immediately beautiful, like abandoned homes + grunge photography. All of it inspires me in a way; to go on more adventures, take more pictures, explore the beautiful sides of ugly. It makes me believe that the world really is my oyster, because here lie all these opportunities to transform, to create, to make something out of nothing. The BEST content comes from living more, as suggested by my best friend Sheriden, and I couldn't agree more. carpe diem

It's odd that so many people try so hard to be artistic, because just being is so damn poetic within itself. How could you not embrace that? How can people spend so much money trying to look a certain way when God took the time to make us unique individuals? Like...is this t-shirt really $80 just to "look" like a hipster? I admire people who just are who they are, love it or hate it. 

Ever so often, I indulge in wines + spirits. Big fan of bourbon whiskey. A few years ago, I locked in this image via tumblr of sunflowers (my favorite type of flower, btw) in a Jack Daniels bottle and rember thinking it was brilliant. So simple, yet brilliant nonetheless, and such a telling representation of me.

I'm not everyone's cup of tea; actually, I'm more like a shot of whiskey in a tea cup. No, I don't intentionally decieve people, but it's not nice to judge a cup by its exterior anyway. I just think people's perception of me changes once they get to know me. None of that makes me any less beautiful. 

Even my perception of me has shifted over the years as I evolve. I didn't always like flowers as gifts, now I do. I didn't always drink dark liquor, now I do. I use to wish to change my heart into something cooler and refigure its capacity, just so it would be tolerable for others; now I love the way I love and wouldn't change it for the world
"I feel like other women fall in love like dropping feather...naturally, soft, elegant fall...And I fall in love in spills or explosions. I haven't decided if that's a good thing or not, but inclined to say it's not..." 
-Chymere A. [Facebook status] 12/23/15 4:10pm

As I adapt to my own changes, people who were only connected by common interest have drifted away, which I'm learning to be okay with. At the end of the day, not everyone likes bourbon whiskey. And I prefer it that way, because it's too much pressure to appease everyone. 

A part of this journey-in large-is embracing who I am and neglecting who I once pretended to be. Finding + loving more of myself in every phase, stage, and crossroad, being gentle with myself when I don't have all the answers.
“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself. Do not go out and look for a successful personality and try to duplicate it.”
—Bruce Lee


Thanks for reading. 

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Wednesday, January 4, 2017

12 Things to Do This Month | January 2017


In my previous post, I mentioned that these Things to Do This Month list I started back in October are helping to break down my goals into small bit sized pieces and allows me to to consistently chip away at larger goals one step at a time. It also enables me to stay focus, as creating a grand list of resolutions can be overwhelming. This year might be the first time I took the time to map out the details and rely more on practicality than anything. 
  1. Purchase a new luggage set
  2. Renew passport
  3. Try this recipe (Vegan chocolate ice cream)
  4. Invest in signature fragrances like Prada Candy, Chanel Noir. and Gucci Rush (new fave)
  5. Take a social media hiatus (originally I wanted to do this the entire month, but willing to start with just 2 weeks 01.01-01.16...baby steps.
  6. Come up with a financial plan/budgeting spreadsheet for the 1st quarter (Jan-Mar)
  7. Post on my sports blog at least twice a week
  8. Start planning for my C-Day 2017 vacation (aiming for Jamaica!!!)
  9. Join a master's swim team, which I haven't done because of all the moving and traveling I've been doing + get back to a regularly scheduled work out routine. Yes, it sounds cliche, but I've been an athlete my entire life so it's not that cliche. 
  10. Transform guest bedroom into a creative studio/workspace.
  11. Go all month without meat. Long story short, I've been on and off "transitioning" into a vegetarian lifestyle for years. It's really not that hard, just way more convenient. So instead of going cold turkey like I normally do, I'm slowly making my way back to it.
  12. Continue to look for more freelancing opportunities.
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Monday, January 2, 2017

chptr xvii


For many people I've spoken to, they've agreed that 2 0 1 6 was either a roller coaster, a nightmare, or somewhere in between, to the point where those who actually had a decent year were scoffed for being so damn positive about how their year went. Guilty. Some of us were attached to all the chaos happening in the world, while others struggled with things on a more personal level, and I was probably a combination of both. To be fair, a lot of it was the mere consequence of our actions. However, here we all are, blessed to welcome a brand new calendar year, alive, breathing, and healthy (I hope). All is well in the universe. 

Even with a fresh new start, to say I magically woke up in a good place mentally, spiritually, financially, etc. would be lying. Although I'm hopeful that this year will be better than the one that came before it, I know there is still plenty of work to be done. I think the biggest takeaway I have from the past year is just breathing and allowing the moment to be what it is-because I've had to remind myself to just breathe quite often-and I plan to continue to remind myself as many times as necessary to do just that. 

The only goal I really have for this upcoming year is to take everything one step at a time; to break the bigger vision I have for my life into tiny bite sized pieces for easier digestion, which is where Things to Do This Month comes into play. In previous years, I'd dive in head first into all these grandiose ideas and overly ambitious plans. Sometimes things worked out, most times they didn't; and when they did, it was probably pure luck, serendipity, the grace of God, whatever you want to call it. It's not to say that I don't still have big dreams or that not willing to put in the work in order to be successful, I just really want to take the necessary time in getting grounded + staying silently focused on the life I wish to create.


Here are a few post I wrote this year that set the tone for creating a more positive experience for myself in xvii:
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