Saturday, April 29, 2017

Falling In...

After the whirlwind of a relationship between me and my first love ended, I made a conscious decision to avoid writing about relationships on my blog, other than a love poem here and there. Years went by before I ever publicly mentioned the mere possibility of letting someone new in and when I finally did, even that turned out to be a complete disaster. Therefore, I resorted back to the anti-love campaign, keeping my trust to a minimum and my precious words far away from the likes of men with ill intentions. This act of defiance in my writing was pretty much a reflection on how I was guarding my heart, shielding it from forces designed to destroy such a fragile and vital organ to survival.

But I am realizing why the heart is so closely associated with femininity; because no matter how delicate it is, it's the one muscle that is designed to be strong, resilient, and functions as the core of an anatomical system that would fail completely without it. Understanding this allowed me to be a little less guarded, a little more open to what the universe had it store for me, a little more receptive to the gift of companionship, and genuinely see the beauty of second chances. This all started within myself and has been an essential part of my self love journey. Little by little, I released the hurt I was holding on to and I felt the stars aligning. The future was unpredictable, but the possibilities became infinite, and there was peace in that.

Fast forward pass the transition from heartbreak to restoration, here I am, falling in again, allowing myself to feel again, and giving myself permission to write through it.  Quite unexpectedly, like a blessing out of the clear blue sky, a friendship has blossomed into something more and given us both, two previously wounded individuals, an opportunity to face our fears associated with love and conquer those fears together. Not only have I been fortunate enough to know a someone who challenges me to excel and reach higher levels as a friend, I've also found a partner whose presence feels just like the peace of mind I've spent my whole life searching for. It's too soon to proclaim I'm falling in love; I just know I'm falling in something and to say it feels so damn good is an understatement. The way he makes me smile so effortlessly and how he makes me feel absolutely beautiful in my most vulnerable state confirms that this is something worth exploring.

It's such a breath of fresh air to experience a connection with someone that instantly felt like home, even if moving and moving on is something that could happen after a while. Life is full of surprises, so neither of us truly knows what the future holds and a lot of personal reservations are still hanging in the balance. However, in this moment, I am so incredibly thankful for whatever is brewing between us and optimistic about the road ahead.  

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Saturday, April 22, 2017

#CreativeBossBae Series | 5 Tips on Staying Creative, Maintaining Balance, + Finding Peace

photo credit: Chymere Anais. iPhone 7+. Sun in My Belly Cafe ATL
Lately, it feels like I've been in a creative funk, where I haven't been able to focus on much of anything or refuse carve out time to dedicate to the projects waiting to be completed. Even this post was something that was put off for a while, because it felt hypocritical in a sense, because I wasn't at peace with what I was building and creating.

Now that I'm in a much better place creatively, I figured what better time than now to release my personal thoughts on staying creative, as well the introduction to #CreativeBossBae, which is a brand new blog series that aims to be a go to guide for inspiration, motivation, and resources for the art of the hustle. Not sure if this will be bi-weekly, monthly, or quarterly; I'm still working out the kinks, but hopefully it's something consistent.

The most important thing is to allow things to flow, although this just might be one of those easier said than done things. We all have deadlines, whether they are implemented by our boss or ourselves, so things need to get done, but it's better to think about quality and not rush through something half-ass. 

Learning how to work on a strict schedule is tough. For freelancers, 12-16 hour days to work on their own dreams may not even start until they clock out of a full time day job. And then having somewhat of a social life and getting a decent amount of sleep is added to the madness. It's the age of the hustle for most millennials, I get it. Your go hard or go home work ethic and steadfast ambition will take you places, but it's still all about balance. Take an hour or two per week to evaluate your schedule and find ways to level out the playing field more efficiently to avoid driving yourself completely insane, ultimately burning out while neglecting other important things in the process.

In other words, stop and smell the roses. Often times, creatives tend to trap themselves in caves until they finish an assignment. I certainly do this, especially when I'm super invested and my motors are running, because I don't want to lose my idea or slow momentum. However, I'm learning that simply going outside to get some fresh air helps me focus a lot better. Go for a walk. Find a quite place to gather your thoughts and relax your mind a bit. Catch up with a close friend over brunch. All of these things are rather simple ways to stay balanced and not get so caught up in work that you forget that a world exist outside of your work/creative space.

Gather your belongings and change the environment in which you work. Sometimes, all you need is a change of scenery. Most coffee shops offer access to free wifi with any purchase. When I lived in Greensboro, NC, I loved to go to places like Geeksboro to fulfill task I could quite do at home. It may even be a helpful to do things the old fashion way using pen and paper and brainstorm ideas outside or at the park.  Perhaps, you live near and are able to afford renting out creative/work spaces like Nex AtlantaWeWork, or Jig+Saw, so it may be a good idea add that to your monthly budget. Take a day or two to explore your local town or city to find some cool places that provide a cozy atmosphere that you are able to work in. 

I'm super bad at this, because I'm obsessed, but it's definitely something I'm working on. We all know how addictive social media can be, especially when there are so many different applications (Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, etc.) to sort through, but try to be cognizant of how much time per day you're essentially wasting scrolling through and refreshing your feeds. Actually, it can be a barrier that's stopping your own thoughts/ideas to flow freely as they could, as well as disabling you from getting shit done. Because the internet can totally be a distraction, breaks are absolutely necessary.

Listen to an uplifting podcast read a book by an industry expert and/or celebrity you're personally inspired by without distractions. Have a conversation with someone in your support system or someone you can exchange ideas freely with. Allow other reliable people to guide you in a more positive direction.

I truly hope this guide helps. Although it can be quite challenging to stay focused in such a hyper active realm of technological advancement, always know your ideas matter. Yes, there's a world that is waiting to receive what you have to offer, but protecting your peace is just as important as producing quality work and what better way to respond to your purpose than to start with peace of mind?

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Sunday, April 16, 2017

Self-Love ♡ Sundays | Inside My DNA

Lately, all I've wanted to do is allow myself to fall head first into everything, because I'm so tired of sitting on the sidelines watching life pass me by. Tired of being patient. Tired of self-sabotaging and talking myself out of potentially awesome opportunities, whether it be because of anxiety, fear of failure, or indecisiveness. It makes me think of the 2 songs I've adapted as my anthems over the past several years, both with a very similar message: Tori Kelly's Worth the Wait and Those Who Wait by Daley, but then I heard that new Kendrick Lamar song, DNA, and my world shifted instantaneously... "I got, I got loyalty, got royalty / inside my DNA...I got hustle though, ambition flow / inside my DNA..." However, this is not an album review yet-or a track review for that matter, but it's coming on #TheSkyBoxSuite eventually, I promise). 

Opportunities come to those who are willing to work in the meantime, to ensure that waiting doesn't morph into complacency, because a lot of the time it's less about talent and more about work ethic. Two years ago, I wrote an article on the blog entitled, Sometimes Ambitious for my Self-Love Sundays series. This was basically a lecture to self about the inadequacy of being "part-time ambitious", so to speak, and sorting through emotional reactions/awareness to how complacent I was becoming, yet here I am-almost 3 years later-still feeling like I'm not doing enough or at least not nearly as much as I should be doing. It feels like my dreams are waiting for me to move closer towards them. Now that I think about it, there are probably several post hidden in the archives relative to dream chasing and moving beyond limited thinking. BOSCO worded it best: 
"Your only job is to jump & the universe takes care of the rest. Meet your dreams halfway." 
With that in mind, all I've wanted to do-as of late-is jump head first into things that make me feel all the more closer to knocking out goals, achieving personal happiness, and clinging tightly to the rush of it all. Luckily, there are people in my life who empower me to do so, but all the encouragement in the world can't force me to want anything more than I want it for myself; no one can do the work for me.

Impulsion seems to be a little taboo, but if the small steps aren't leading anywhere, what else am I expected to do? As an adult, I'm expected to be more strategic, more cautious, more calculated, more deliberate, etc. but perhaps sometimes, it's really about being bold enough to say yes to all the wonderful things and resources available to propel me forward. Because I know I have it in me, it's up to me to focus on what needs to be done and actually do it. 

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